Deployments and Separations -
Tips for Surviving Deployment and Separation
- VOLUNTEER Helping other is good medicine for your mental
and spiritual health
- CALL the State Family Program Coordinator to ask about volunteer opportunities
or to just have a conversation
- SET A GOAL. Start the program or project you’ve been putting
off. Begin a self-improvement program. Go back to school; learn a new
skill or hobby. Do something for yourself
- INITIATE, don’t wait for the phone to ring. Plan an outing or
a special dinner, then call several friends to join you
- TRAVEL. New scenery and a change of pace if only for a day or two
can do wonders for the spirit. Plan on taking a friend and making a day
- GO TO WORK. A full or part-time job can provide extra income as well
as opportunities for interaction
- TAKE A BREAK. Take time away from your children. Single parenting
wears you down, so go to dinner or see a movie with friends once a week.
- LAUGH. Don’t lose your sense of humor. Take time to smell the
roses and to enjoy them.
- DON’T FELL GUILTY about going out with friends and leaving your
children with a sitter.
- KEEP A JOURNAL of your thoughts and activities while your service
member is away to help them catch up when they return. Include snapshots
you and the children taken while they were away.
- JOIN A SUPPORT GROUP. Whether it is your Family Readiness Group, or
a group at your church or work, the support of friends makes the going
- KNOW AT LEAST 2 OF YOUR NEIGHBORS. You may need their help on an emergency
basis, and they can offer day-to-day support.
- DON’T always call or run home to mom or dad if the going gets
rough. That, at best, is a temporary solution, and may become very expensive
- DIFFERENCES. If you and your spouse have some differences try to work
them out before they leave.
- FIND A BUDDY. Another Guard family member who is also alone temporarily
will make a great companion. Time passes quicker with a friend.
- LITTLE THINGS CAN HELP A LOT. Cook a special dish that you enjoy,
but that you spouse dislikes, start a small project, do some physical
it will help relieve emotional tiredness and stress
- TIME TO ADJUST. When your service member returns home give them time
to adjust. Don’t hand them a list of repairs and problems as soon
as they walk in the door, and don’t smother them with attention.
Allow them some time alone.